“In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen.”
“Lean into the uncomfortable.”
“Having the courage to be imperfect.”
“Letting go of who we think we should be and be who we really are.”
“What makes you vulnerable, makes you beautiful.”
This all sounds very nice. Very easy to say, yet quite difficult to actually do – especially, for people who work in schools.
Schools are very good at developing the head. We spend so much time thinking about thinking and developing ideas and perspectives. While there is a strong argument that this is important and thinking has an important place in what we do, we need to also develop the heart in terms of our interactions with our peers and students.
We can think about things and solve problems, but it is nothing unless we are developing feelings and emotions to connect every one of us.
It is this deep connection that is inside of us all. This allows us to be compassionate and also have the courage to be more vulnerable.
This made me think about how I could deepen my connection with the people I work with. This would ultimately improve our relationships, trust and as a way of being better at what we do.
How can I strengthen my relationships with those that I spend so much time with?
The answer is being more vulnerable. If we reveal more of ourselves at work, so that people get to know us better, wouldn’t this spur on others to be more comfortable around us too?
As teachers, we really do fear letting other people see us. We hide so much away and keep it locked up. We sometimes get to see people differently outside of school, if we are lucky.
We don’t want our students to hide away, do we? Of course not!
We all need to get better at being playful at work, lower the walls and bring in the real you to work. Show your personality, share things beyond the transactional stuff that is meaningless and empty. Otherwise, we just take things too seriously. We become too stiff at work because we are too busy to get to know each other better.
Being more vulnerable gives others permission to also drop their guard a bit. Schools would be so much more fun to work in if we could develop more compassion, connection and courage by being more outward and vulnerable with one another. How else do you get to know each other?
Do you hide yourself or show the real you in the work place?